{"id":1835,"date":"2015-02-10T07:00:00","date_gmt":"2015-02-09T23:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.futurethink.com.sg\/?p=1835"},"modified":"2016-02-10T05:51:04","modified_gmt":"2016-02-10T05:51:04","slug":"narcissist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.futurethink.com.sg\/devsite\/narcissist\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You a Narcissist?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"dslc-theme-content\"><div id=\"dslc-theme-content-inner\"><div style=\"padding-bottom:20px; padding-top:10px;\" class=\"hupso-share-buttons\"><!-- Hupso Share Buttons - http:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/ --><a class=\"hupso_counters\" href=\"http:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/buttons\/share-small.png\" style=\"border:0px; padding-top:2px; float:left;\" alt=\"Share Button\"\/><\/a><script type=\"text\/javascript\">var hupso_services_c=new Array(\"twitter\",\"facebook_like\",\"facebook_send\",\"google\",\"pinterest\",\"email\",\"print\",\"linkedin\");var hupso_counters_lang = \"en_US\";var hupso_image_folder_url = \"\";var hupso_url_c=\"\";var hupso_title_c=\"Are You a Narcissist?\";<\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/js\/counters.js\"><\/script><!-- Hupso Share Buttons --><\/div><p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.futurethink.com.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/02\/Bad-boss1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.futurethink.com.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/02\/Bad-boss1.jpg\" alt=\"Bad boss1\" width=\"256\" height=\"170\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-2160\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Are you a Narcissist? Perhaps not.<\/p>\n<p>But I\u2019m sure many of us have worked with or encountered narcissists sometime during our working life. Perhaps you may be working with one today. <\/p>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t matter if that person is your boss, your subordinate or your peer. Working with a narcissist can be extreme stressful and could seriously wear you down.<\/p>\n<p>But what is a Narcissist? How do we determine if a person is a narcissist?<\/p>\n<p>Here are some statements that will help you determine if your boss or your colleague or someone you know is a Narcissist:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<p><b>1.   Self-centered<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<p>\u2022   Defined as constantly thinking about oneself<br \/>\n<br \/>\n\u2022   Focused on getting one\u2019s own needs met (often ignoring the needs of others)\n<\/ul>\n<p><b>2.   Sense of Entitlement or Superiority<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<p>\u2022   Feeling that one is always right<br \/>\n<br \/>\n\u2022   Feeling that one is better or deserve more than other people\n<\/ul>\n<p><b>3.   Lack of Empathy<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<p>\u2022   Lack compassion and feelings for other people\n<\/ul>\n<p><b>4.   Manipulative or Controlling<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<p>\u2022   Use emotions to manipulate people<br \/>\n<br \/>\n\u2022   Tendency to be extremely jealous and controlling in relationships\n<\/ul>\n<p><b>5.   Strong need for Admiration<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<p>\u2022   Demand admiration and praise<br \/>\n<br \/>\n\u2022   Like to be the center of attention<br \/>\n<br \/>\n\u2022   Upset if spotlight is not on him\/her\n<\/ul>\n<p><b>6.   Difficulty taking feedback<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<p>\u2022   Over-react to criticism<br \/>\n<br \/>\n\u2022   Have a hard time admitting one is wrong\n<\/ul>\n<p><b>7.   Easily wounded<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<p>\u2022   Quick to feel hurt or angry<br \/>\n<br \/>\n\u2022   Frequently feel wronged by others\n<\/ul>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Does anyone come to mind as you read through the above checklist?<\/p>\n<p>The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) lists all of these traits among the criteria for narcissistic personality disorder. Although not a comprehensive way of determining if a person is really suffering from NPD, it is still a fairly basic way of knowing if a person has NPD tendencies. The more statements you check-off form the above list, the more likely that person has a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).<\/p>\n<p>However we should not confuse someone with NPD with someone with high self-esteem. A person suffering from NPD usually has an over-inflated sense of self-importance or a heightened desire for attention. But that does not mean they actually feel good about themselves. <\/p>\n<p>A person suffering from NPD usually has a very fragile self-esteem. Deep down inside them, they feel very vulnerable. And it is because of this vulnerability that they tend to act out in ways that they believe would help them compensate for the fragile self-esteem that they feel. And these actions usually manifest themselves as loud, brash and controlling behaviours towards others. <\/p>\n<p>A narcissistic person may appear to be the star of their lives, but in actual fact they have a very fragile self-esteem.<\/p>\n<p>In contrast, a person with a healthy dose of self-esteem will have self-respect and self-compassion, and are usually aware of and feel comfortable with one\u2019s own strengths and weaknesses.<\/p>\n<p>So what has your experience been?<\/p>\n<p>Have you worked with a person that fits the descriptions above?<br \/>\n<br \/>\nOr are you working with one now?<br \/>\n<br \/>\nWhat do you do to help you cope with working with a narcissist?<\/p>\n<div style=\"padding-bottom:20px; padding-top:10px;\" class=\"hupso-share-buttons\"><!-- Hupso Share Buttons - http:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/ --><a class=\"hupso_counters\" href=\"http:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/buttons\/share-small.png\" style=\"border:0px; padding-top:2px; float:left;\" alt=\"Share Button\"\/><\/a><script type=\"text\/javascript\">var hupso_services_c=new Array(\"twitter\",\"facebook_like\",\"facebook_send\",\"google\",\"pinterest\",\"email\",\"print\",\"linkedin\");var hupso_counters_lang = \"en_US\";var hupso_image_folder_url = \"\";var hupso_url_c=\"\";var hupso_title_c=\"Are You a Narcissist?\";<\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"https:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/js\/counters.js\"><\/script><!-- Hupso Share Buttons --><\/div><\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Are you a Narcissist? Perhaps not. But I\u2019m sure many of us have worked with or encountered narcissists sometime during our working life. Perhaps you may be working with one today. It doesn\u2019t matter if that person is your boss, your subordinate or your peer. Working with a narcissist can be extreme stressful and could seriously [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":68,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"content-type":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[2,8],"tags":[],"yst_prominent_words":[],"class_list":["post-1835","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blogs","category-personality","pmpro-has-access"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.futurethink.com.sg\/devsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1835","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.futurethink.com.sg\/devsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.futurethink.com.sg\/devsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.futurethink.com.sg\/devsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/68"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.futurethink.com.sg\/devsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1835"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.futurethink.com.sg\/devsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1835\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3556,"href":"https:\/\/www.futurethink.com.sg\/devsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1835\/revisions\/3556"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.futurethink.com.sg\/devsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1835"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.futurethink.com.sg\/devsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1835"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.futurethink.com.sg\/devsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1835"},{"taxonomy":"yst_prominent_words","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.futurethink.com.sg\/devsite\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/yst_prominent_words?post=1835"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}